Boys are stupid!?

Few years ago I was doing my graphic design internship at a clothing brand, whose aim was to empower women. It was ran by two lovely ladies, full on energy, ideas and enthusiasm and coming there once a week to meet with other interns and go through our tasks was always a lot of fun.

Their main products were casual clothing items with strong messages, such as ''Woman power'', ''Future is female'' and ''Boss babe''.
But the one I couldn't get out of my mind was "Boys are stupid".


To me empowerment was always about pointing out someones strong points, reminding them how to take advantage of their weaknesses, encourage them to be the best version of themselves, because that's more than enough... Something within the lines of a quote by singer Lorde: "Never forget what you are. Wear it like an armour and it can never be used to hurt you."
And not by bringing others down.
That's something more in the style of Medici rule, which were poisoning their enemies until mother said to her son "You'll end up being king of nothing/no one."


Imagine men walking around with shirts saying ''Girls are stupid''. You can be sure they'd receive bunch of discouraging looks and sooner or later probably even cross the crazy feminist, who'd there and then want to tare this poor soul apart, simply for wearing a silly t-shirt. It would be inappropriate in all the ways, hardly seen as a joke by anyone and strictly insulting.
Yet when women are wearing "reverse" version it's supposed to be empowering!?


We even had a boy among our rounds of interns, who complained over the slogan, to which he received a reply "Are you a boy or a man!"


And even if my personal opinion is wrong, the history certainly proves it's part. It was men who invented and discovered most of the things throughout the days, and that was based on what they learned as boys. 

You can tell I am no feminist, especially if this is what feminism is about these days.
Aren't we as women talking and wanting about equality between genders all the time, yet still have need of bringing guys down to feel as empowered. Because ''Real queens fix each other's crowns without telling the world that they were ever crooked.'', but we could never get this one trough with guys. As much as we want to be equal, coming from both women and men, we still cannot get out of our skin of firstly defying people around us by their gender, and only later by whatever values their bringing to our lives.

Misery needs company, and why would we bother trying hard and creating something, when it's so much easier to bring someone else down. Or in the spirit of my own nation: ''It doesn't matter how bad I have it as long as someone has it worse.''

And I certainly wouldn't want to be around people who need to bring others down to feel empowered, because once they ran out of targets to bring down, they'll start bringing down you.


   

Comments

  1. I don't think they should have made that shirt, I agree with you and the other male intern. You're right we should use our words to build others up not tear them down.

    Hope that you are having a great week :) I've got a scarf giveaway on my blog right now :)

    Away From Blue

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  2. Well I think it was supposed to be cheeky. And not sure how old the founders are but in older generations it was very common for boys to say "girls are stupid" you see it in old movies and TV shows. But in this day and age things are bit different so it really isn't needed. They are a bit out of date...

    Allie of
    www.allienyc.com

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  3. Wise words, I agree with you. People too often try to bring someone else down instead of trying to develop and create a better world.

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  4. I'm with you, tearing men down doesn't build women up. That's not equality. A great post xx

    Violethollow.com

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  5. I would never wear such shirt. I am all about female empowerment, but there is no need to be borderline inappropriate towards men. After all, each one of us has a male in our family or among our friends/coworkers, who would feel bad about it. That is not what equality is about. xx

    Naya
    www.nayatilly.com

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  6. I know what you mean and I would never wear such a shirt. Discriminations are in each context a no-go for me!
    xx Rena
    www.dressedwithsoul.com

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  7. I totally agree with you! I don't want to be treated differently by a woman or a man because I'm a woman. I want to be promoted because of my skills and my personality, not because I'm a women and there's the need to "empower woman".
    I hope we can arrive to THAT equality!
    great post!
    xx

    Eli

    www.curly-style.com

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  8. Well, there is a point here.
    New post:
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  9. I think you're absolutely right. That kind of t-shirts are not acceptable. Female empowerment shouldn't be about insulting man. I think men are today often in a difficult position. Personally, I have been more hurt by women than by men. Honestly, I find men to have a great capacity for friendship. Many of them are kind human beings. We should give them a chance.

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